Unschoolery http://sett.com/unschoolery An Undefinitive Guide to Unschooling en-us Fri, 31 Oct 2014 19:04:01 +0000 http://sett.com Sett RSS Generator RIP http://sett.com/unschoolery/community/543704 Sadly he passed away last week in a car accident. It was already announced on the main blog but I thought some people here may not have heard. He is survived by his wife and two of his children. He will be dearly missed.

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Tue, 16 Sep 2014 18:09:06 +0000 http://sett.com/unschoolery/community/543704
I got whipped http://sett.com/unschoolery/community/543773 by the man in blue

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Tue, 16 Sep 2014 18:20:53 +0000 http://sett.com/unschoolery/community/543773
Parents cant teach http://sett.com/unschoolery/community/543757 children anything

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Tue, 16 Sep 2014 18:19:07 +0000 http://sett.com/unschoolery/community/543757
Unschooling is NOT Unparenting http://sett.com/unschoolery/community/62523 (I originally posted this on my blog here, and thought it's an important message: http://www.raisingmiro.com/2013/02/20/unschooling-is-not-unparenting/)

…and Involved Parenting does not mean CONTROLLING

The idea of “unparenting” has come up every time I read a critical article about the unschooling movement. It’s difficult for many conventional thinkers to comprehend the engaged, hands on approach that is needed to create a loving and learning environment for a child. The unschooling paradigm does not start and stop with the intentional act of learning, it’s a complete concept defining the parent / child relationship. As an unschooling parent, I take my role as Miro’s learning facilitator seriously, and have never opted out of being engaged in his learning or life.

Unschooling is NOT unparenting.

“Unschooling is not unparenting; freedom to learn is not license to do whatever you want. People find different ways and means to get comfortable with John Holt’s ideas about children and learning and no one style of unschooling or parenting defines unschooling.”
~Pat Farenga

Before we began on our travels, I was working 60+ hours a week running my boutique branding agency, managing clients and accounts, the creative team and campaigns and taking care of administrative and marketing tasks. I took care of everything that needed to be taken care of and kept to a schedule which was the only way I could juggle all the responsibility in my life. I thought I was a good provider and I perceived my role as a parent as being successful.

My day started early, as I got Miro off to school at 7:30 in the morning. Miro was one of lucky kids who was accepted to a state funded afterschool program, where he was able to work on his homework or read until I picked him up at 5:30 each day. (That was a long day for anyone, especially for a child under 10).

At that point, I was not involved in his education nor did I believe it was my role to interfere in the state provided methods, as I just believed, they did what was best for the children of California. Sadly, I was I truly uninvolved in his life. We were tasked, scheduled, productive and disconnected. For the first 10 years of Miro’s life, I was an uninvolved parent. I would have never admitted it then because I was achieving a respectable level of success and we were highly functioning within the system and that was what we were supposed to do. But an involved parent in Miro’s life? I know now, that was a superficial illusion.

But now I am a highly involved parent.

But there is a huge difference between highly involved and controlling. In fact, I’d say my involvement is completely and totally uncontroling How could those two concepts work?

Unschooling is not unparenting, in fact it is highly involved parenting. But it si parenting without having to control the situation, parenting through involvement and presence, something I talk about as being the key to making all of this work. But by not being controlling, I am not being neglectful.

Get it?

Unschooling, is not unparenting, it an attached and highly involved form of parenting. Some would characterize it as a state of permissive parenting, but others might object to the use of that word. At the root of the relationship though is a sense of trust. The underlying belief through the unschooling approach is that when a parent is highly involved in supporting their child’s learning processes, control is not necessary.

Because I allow my son to make his own choices about his focus of study, his time, his hygiene, his life, I am not unparenting him. I am actually empowering his to make choices, and through not controlling his time or choices, life learning happens. Accountability. He’s accountable for his choices now, and that is a lesson that he will carry through the rest of his life.

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Tue, 27 Aug 2013 21:35:27 +0000 http://sett.com/unschoolery/community/62523
Back to school after 2 years of unschooling? http://sett.com/unschoolery/community/470749 Need some help and guidance - My husband and I have been unschooling our two daughters (ages 10 and 12) for the past 2 years in the state of Virginia. Just last week my 10 year old asked if she could try the school in the area we just moved to a year ago. In order to register her for school I have to show proof that she's ready to enter the 5th grade (and 7th grade for my other daughter if she ends up wanting to try it too). How do I do this if I haven't tested them annually like Virginia homeschoolers are supposed to do? I'm scared and feeling very guilty for not at least having them tested and complying with homeschool regulations. I have very mixed feelings about them going back to school but ultimately I want them to own their education, choose the methods that they feel satisfy their needs and I will fill in wherever necessary.

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Tue, 12 Aug 2014 15:19:38 +0000 http://sett.com/unschoolery/community/470749
How to tell the school your son isn't going anymore? http://sett.com/unschoolery/community/473876 If I decide to unschool my son, how do I tell the school he isn't going anymore? How do I know the state won't consider me a bad parent and put my son in a foster home?

Thank you!

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Sat, 16 Aug 2014 13:58:49 +0000 http://sett.com/unschoolery/community/473876
Could my unschooling curriculum idea work? http://sett.com/unschoolery/community/223576 Hello,

For the past year I've been thinking about an idea of teaching 3rd-5th graders a progressively more sophisticated curriculum all based on the chocolate chip cookie. It would be books with activities, classic project-based learning with lots of side benefits. If you are unschooling your kids I'd love to hear what you think of this idea. The 3rd segment, for 5th grade, would be starting a mock (or real) cookie company where a group of kids collaborates just like in real life. Thanks for your thoughts!

Susie

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Wed, 21 May 2014 00:12:41 +0000 http://sett.com/unschoolery/community/223576
Dont mess up http://sett.com/unschoolery/community/543761 your children

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Tue, 16 Sep 2014 18:19:19 +0000 http://sett.com/unschoolery/community/543761
Schools rock http://sett.com/unschoolery/community/543756 i learned everything in school

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Tue, 16 Sep 2014 18:18:53 +0000 http://sett.com/unschoolery/community/543756
Schools http://sett.com/unschoolery/community/543755 i <3 school

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